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Thursday, June 27, 2013

Parental Pride

There are many moments in a parents life when they experience a feeling of pride over their child.  These moments can occur for many reasons, simple and small, over the years, such as when your child brings home a good report card, helps out a friend or a sibling, learns how to ride a bike, does a small act of kindness, plays an instrument or a sport well, etc.  The list is truly endless with all the ways your child can make you feel proud.

Today, my 7-year-old truly made me smile and shake my head in wonder.  My mom (who is 68 and pretty incredible, if I do say so myself), watches my kids for me in the summer (I cannot express my gratitude enough to her for this and for the fact that she loves my girls so much!).  Today's agenda was a quick stop at her doctor's before going to see a $1 summer movie.  She was going to have a cortisone shot in her knee.  Apparently, she asked the girls if any of them wanted to come in with her.  (The girls are ages 7, 11, 11, and 13.)  So, of course, it was the 7-year-old that readily agreed to go into the office with her.

When I heard this story, I thought they were going to tell me that her and grandma played a game, or looked into each other's eyes during the injection.  But no, that is not what occurred.  My brave 7-year-old held her grandma's hand and WATCHED the injection going into her knee, while her grandma watched her!  I would have been on the floor if I were in the room, let alone being the one who was receiving the injection.  I asked my daughter how she was able to watch it, and she said, "Well, I didn't know it was going to be such a giant needle!!"

To truly appreciate my amazement, I must take a moment to describe how my two sisters and I are with this type of 'stuff'.  See, we are total wusses when it comes to anything medical.  We feel like passing out just thinking about having any kind of procedure done.  In fact, the word 'procedure' alone has negative connotations and brings on fear.  We could never drive ourselves to the many procedures my mom has faced alone (such as one horrific test to check out her thyroid by jamming a needle into her neck and torturous bladder tests!).  We would need a driver because we would need some kind of anti-anxiety med to get us to and through any such procedures.

The ironic thing here is that our mother has no fear.  She could watch any surgery; she has helped many people recover from surgery.  She has had all kinds of procedures done on herself.  In fact, she has had one knee replaced and has had several back surgeries, the last of which placed many rods and screws in her spine.  You'd think this would make her severely limited in her movement, but it doesn't.  She is always on the go and is a beautiful woman, on the inside and the out, always doing things for others.

We are not quite sure how her three daughters became complete medical wimps while she is a medical warrior.  But I see that my brave, lovely, 7-year-old got Grandma's 'strong' gene.  Who knows, maybe she will grow up to be a surgeon with her no fear attitude!  In any event, and no matter what she decides to do, she is blessed to have grandma's genes in her!


In Amazement, Awe, and Appreciation,
Me


Motivational Moment:


Some advice for my daughters:



Live well, my daughters, for life is short!


Sunday, June 23, 2013

Simple Little Joys

I am always told by friends and family that I think too much.  I think too deeply...all the time...about many different things.  About how short life is; all the what ifs; why bad things happen to good people; the meaning of life; what my next step should be in life.  But for the sake of a peaceful existence, the experts say you should not think too much.  There is no tomorrow or yesterday - there is just right now.  We are simply supposed to exist in the present; simply just BE.

I hear what they are saying.  I understand that if I don't ruminate about the past or worry about the future, I will be less hampered down by worries and anxieties. That premise makes sense; however, it is alot easier said than done.

Some days though, I manage to do it for a short time.  The other morning I was in the shower, and I happened to read the bottle of body wash I was using. I absolutely love the smell of it.  When I read the bottle, it made me smile.  This is what it said:



It is a coconut vanilla body wash from Bath and Body Works that smells wonderful (this was apparently purchased a couple of years ago, as it is now discontinued; I found it in my cabinet and just started using it; nothing like buried treasure in your own house!).  It reminds me of being at the beach (it is aptly called Moana which means ocean.).  It comes in a beautiful, blue bottle.  What made me happy when I read the bottle is that it states the Tamanu nut oil is from the "Tree of 1000 virtues".  Doesn't even the name of that tree make you think philosophically?  It is such a cool sounding tree!  So this is my point.  I was able to get lost in the simple joy of a fabulous smell.  And then the joy was increased when I read the bottle.  It was a rare moment when I was truly enjoying the present.  There were no other thoughts or worries racing across my mind; I was simply just enjoying the moment.

So today's blog is about some simple (and cheap - everything was $20 and under!) little joys that have made me happy the past couple of days.  These are moments when I am not worrying about anything, I am simply enjoying the beauty in the present moment.

That same morning that I enjoyed my body wash, I put on one of my favorite bracelets.  It is a beautiful pink color and if I remember correctly, it was around $20 from Kohl's.  The color alone makes me happy (as it is my favorite color and hue of pink), but I also love all the cute little charms, as well as the initiative it stands for (curing breast cancer).




Another unexpected little joy came in the form of an inexpensive leather bracelet I came across at a little stand on the boardwalk, in Ocean City, MD (I can't find the name of the gentleman who made the bracelets.).  I just love this bracelet; it is so cool!




Gorgeous pink and purple blooming flowers:



And most precious of all, an impromptu little wild flower bouquet, given to me by my 7 year old, while on a walk this beautiful summer night:




Enjoying the Little Beauties in Life,
Me


Motivational Moment:

For today's simple Motivational Moment, I liked the following two quotes from http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/joy.

“There are random moments - tossing a salad, coming up the driveway to the house, ironing the seams flat on a quilt square, standing at the kitchen window and looking out at the delphiniums, hearing a burst of laughter from one of my children's rooms - when I feel a wavelike rush of joy. This is my true religion: arbitrary moments of of nearly painful happiness for a life I feel privileged to lead.”
 - Elizabeth Berg, The Art of Mending
 
“I want a life that sizzles and pops and makes me laugh out loud. And I don't want to get to the end, or to tomorrow, even, and realize that my life is a collection of meetings and pop cans and errands and receipts and dirty dishes. I want to eat cold tangerines and sing out loud in the car with the windows open and wear pink shoes and stay up all night laughing and paint my walls the exact color of the sky right now. I want to sleep hard on clean white sheets and throw parties and eat ripe tomatoes and read books so good they make me jump up and down, and I want my everyday to make God belly laugh, glad that he gave life to someone who loves the gift.”
 - Shauna Niequist, Cold Tangerines, Celebrating the Extraordinary Nature of Everyday Life
 
Both of the above quotes wonderfully express my point of enjoying the small things throughout your day.  I particularly like the title of Shauna's book: "...Celebrating the Extraordinary Nature of Everyday Life".  What a fabulous title!  Thank you Shauna!
 
My wish for you today is that you have moments where your mind stops racing and you are able to simply enjoy the little simple joys that you come across in your day; and may there be many!
 
 
 

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Family Vacation

Well...I made it!  I survived our annual family vacation.  I find it ironic that I always get so excited to go on vacation and by the time I get back home, I feel like a survivor.  I recently read a quote by Jerry Seinfeld that I think is pretty accurate of life: "There is no such thing as fun for the whole family."  Isn't this true?!  I mean, think about it, when you travel as a family, you have people of all ages and sexes.  How on earth would anyone expect that there would be one place you could go that would be everyone's perfection?  Yet, as parents, we want to find this perfect haven - both for a get away from our daily routine as well as something the kids will love.

The beach comes pretty close to perfection for a vacation spot for our family.  I have three daughters who are pretty low key.  We have always loved just hanging at the beach, playing in the sand or in the ocean, walking along the beach, reading books, etc.  Hence, I was a little surprised on this trip when my youngest wanted to spend all of her time in the pool and not on the beach!  (Kudos to my husband for indulging this child throughout this vacation).

This was the first time I rented a condo through VRBO (Vacation Rental By Owner).  I was very pleased with our experience.  You can get a much bigger place for a lot less money than a typical hotel room; not to mention that we would have needed 2 hotel rooms for our party of 7.  We had 3 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, 4 TVs, 2 balconies (one beach side and one bay side), a living room, kitchen, and even a washer and dryer.  There was an outdoor pool and an indoor pool.  And most importantly, we were located on the beach!  We went before the full regular summer season started, so we did not have any traffic issues or crowded beaches or activities.  Overall, this Ocean City, Maryland vacation was a very good place to take the family, especially being there prior to the big crowds.

On a side note - I learned a lesson the hard way 5 years ago, when I planned my first vacation after having my third daughter.  We went to Virginia Beach and stayed on the ocean.  (BTW - that is also when I learned that there is a difference between 'ocean view' and 'ocean front'...our hotel was on the ocean...and we would have had a pretty nice "view" of the ocean (from the side of the hotel) if only the elevator shaft wasn't there, blocking said view.  That trip taught me that when you are traveling with three kids - between the ages of 1 and 5 (although I don't really think age is the key here - albeit younger is easier) you should always get a suite - something with two bedrooms or at the very least one bedroom with a separate living room for watching TV.  Let's just say hubby and the kids did not mix too well come evening/bed time; which made for quite the miserable experience for me...the entire week.  (Like I said - chalk that one up to a life lesson learned...that will never be repeated!)  Hotel room drama aside, Virginia Beach was also a very nice, family vacation location (I loved the Boardwalk).

For the record, I was by far the worst person during the 8 hour car ride to Ocean City.  I am NOT a traveler; I am a home body.  Always have been, suspect always will be (although I do love the ocean...might have to make that my home eventually).  I was at a seminar recently where the instructor said that we are hard-wired by the time we are 10 years old.  So instead of trying to change who you are, you should build on your strengths to become a successful person.  Anyways, I was the only one car sick after the first HOUR of driving; it made for a VERY long 10 hour trip.  I was very impressed with the kids and my mom (who also gets car sick); we were crammed in like sardines!  Every time we stopped, we had to partially unload the minivan so that the kids could get out of the back of it.  None of the kids complained about not having space and no one asked "Are we there yet?"! 

Here are some pics from our trip:

Stuff we had to move to the front seats every time we stopped so the kids could get out of the back!


Literally packed to the top!

I have to show you the cutest thing that the Ohio Turnpike service stations offer for moms with young kids: Mommy and Me Potties!!  I love whomever came up with this genius idea (it had to be a mom who experienced the pleasure of trying to cram into a single stall with a young child...).




We made it through the eight hour drive (it became a ten hour trip with our stops) and this was our view from our hotel room:




There were some pretty flowers growing on the beach:


  
My bedroom had a wall of windows that faced the ocean.  I had the pleasure of seeing the sunrise two mornings in a row (it was beautiful!):

Of course, who could go on vacation without enjoying yummy candy: fudge, caramel apples, truffles, gummies!  There were Candy Kitchen's on almost every block!


As luck would have it, tropical storm Andrea came to Ocean City on Friday of our vacation week.  Here was the view from the hotel the first half of the day:



At one point, the fog (or cloud cover - not sure which) actually came up to our window so we couldn't even see the beach:


The next day brought fun waves:





And of course, to throw in a little excitement on our vacation, my husband hit the driver's side door on the cement pillar while backing out of the parking spot in the condo's parking garage.




Alas, I did reach my state of bliss a couple of times throughout the week (before Andrea hit):


Ahhh...The Good Life: Sun, surf, and a good book!

Missing the Beach Already,
Me


P.S. I am very happy to report that, despite all of the nasty little sicknesses that were plaguing our household the entire last month of school, everyone was healthy for this trip, which was truly a miracle in itself.


Motivational Moment:

There are many good hearted people in this world.  Many of us encounter them in our every day life. It can be simple, small acts of kindness, such as a smile or a kind word, holding a door open for someone, picking something up for someone who dropped it, etc.  There are also many hero's that save people's lives, like firefighters, police, EMTs, organ donors, (to name a few) and all the hero's that surface during tragedies caused by people or mother nature.

This Motivational Moment is a shout out to a very kind woman who happens to love kittens and takes in foster kitties when needed.  My parents have a large garage on their property and many times throughout the years, momma cats have had kittens in there.  Usually the momma stays around to nurse her babies and then my mom finds homes for the kittens and gets the momma spayed (if she can catch her).

About 6 weeks ago, three kittens were left stranded in the garage (the momma cat disappeared for whatever reason).  My mom took the ~9 day old kittens to the vet and found out how to care for them and nurse them around the clock.  Needless to say, this was exhausting for my mom.  I told her to post pics of the kittens at the local vets as well as local pet food stores asking if anyone had a nursing momma cat that could adopt these orphaned kittens. 

As luck would have it, a wonderful woman, who had a momma cat at home who was just about done nursing her litter, noticed the sign at the vet's and contacted my mom.  She agreed to take the kittens to her momma cat to see if she would care for them.  This woman ended up keeping the kittens, much to my delight.  Tonight (which was about four weeks later) she brought the kittens over for a visit.  It turns out the momma cat was already too dried up to nurse the kittens, so this woman had to feed the kittens formula.  The momma cat did clean them and watch over them and love them.  I couldn't thank this woman enough for taking this big burden off of my mom and for caring for the kittens herself.  Here are some pics from tonight's visit.



To all those people who perform small and large acts of kindness - you rock!  Keep spreading your joy.  To those who don't, get busy being kind; you'll be happier because of it.